May 24, 2005

Matters of the heart

It's Tuesday! This week's topic involves a rather serious look at heartfelt matters: Which is worse: a lonely heart or a broken heart?

While it has been years, I have not forgotten those many, many forlorn Friday and Saturday nights in high school and college when all my friends were out with their boyfriends or significant others.

I distinctly recall watching from afar as other girls were warmly and enthusiastically greeted by the objects of their respective desires. Even when I tried not to notice or otherwise ignore those moments when some guy walked up to a girl he liked, smiled at her, then took her hand, kissed her briefly or showed some other small sign of tenderness and affection, I still felt the abject cold and emptiness of wretched desolation.

While I have felt the deep pain of a broken heart and languished in its miserable aching torment, I would choose again and again to partake and embrace of love's grace, even if I knew, at best, it might only be a fleeting and capricous whimsy.

The lonely heart is one which beats behind tall and thick fortress walls that suffice to protect it against damage, but also distances it from joy and exultation while reducing its owner to a mere spectator to life.

The broken heart recognizes the anguish of bittersweet heartache as a testament to living a life well and seizing those opportunities the randomness of fate has allowed.

I choose to live, learn, and hopefully love. What say you?

For additional insight, be sure to visit the ladies: Sadie, Silk, Kathy, and guest Red Hat Diva Pammy of Lollygaggin, as well as these guys: The Wizard, Phin, and the AirMarshal of Naked Villainy. (Puffy has taken a trip to far off ponds and will return in a fortnight.)

Posted by Christina at May 24, 2005 12:42 AM


"'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all," as the old adage goes. I wouldn't know about any of this yet.

Posted by: amelie" at May 23, 2005 09:32 PM

HEY! Amelie stole my line! Damn it!!! At least the saying.

The other part? Well, even though it can hurt, it's a good time getting to the pain. I don't think I'd trade any of it.

Posted by: That 1 Guy at May 23, 2005 09:51 PM

Amelie stole my line, too! In fact, that's how I titled my post on it. But, I have a far different view of it than you do, Chrissy. Imagine that? hehehe

Posted by: Pammy at May 23, 2005 10:02 PM

I'm not so sure...there are some people I wish I had never met.Good topic.

Posted by: Ruth at May 24, 2005 01:54 AM

Whoever said, "It is better to have love and lost, than to have never loved at all," doesn't know what he's talking about.

My take on this, is that once you've loved, and lost, you find it hard to trust anyone again, while those who have never loved, are just lonely.

Posted by: Joe Wiess at May 24, 2005 02:06 AM

I've been on both sides. Loved and lost, loved and caused the loss. I've never required "love" though it's a wonderful thing so I cannot fathom a lonely heart. Dwelling on something that I cannot affect is something I will not do. - DS

Posted by: Dishonorable Schoolboy at May 24, 2005 07:13 AM

Oh baby, I've been on both sides of this fence! Great subject and very well written,lady!

Posted by: Michele at May 24, 2005 09:20 AM

Apparently, I'm a twisted S.O.B. Oooh well.

Posted by: sadie at May 24, 2005 09:43 AM

An excellent post.

Spoken like a true romantic.
(I promise I’m saying that as a good thing. Some folks might think I was being sarcastic.)

Posted by: phin at May 24, 2005 11:53 AM

Fabulous lady, as always

and Sadie, that post isn't what makes you twisted hun ;)

Posted by: silk at May 24, 2005 12:37 PM

Heh. At least I'm not writing about felt-up chickens...;-)

Lawd, Chrissy, that descriptive language just kicks me in the ass. Perhaps you could curse a little more, and make me feel a wee bit less coarse?


Posted by: sadie at May 24, 2005 02:53 PM

Hey, I can't help it if the world throws chicken molestation into the mix! :p

Posted by: silk at May 24, 2005 03:23 PM

lonely hearts, that is worse for me.

Posted by: oddybobo at May 24, 2005 04:41 PM

I think that a LOT of women are messed up by the men they have been involved with. (A lot of men are messed up by women, too.)

Where did it start? Where does it end? It has to end with the person realizing that because someone they liked was a jerk, not all men (or women) are jerks. The lesson to be learned isn't to refrain from trusting, it is to be more careful whom you trust.

I learned that it was far better to have said things than to have left things unsaid. At least you know, and that brings peace of mind. That would be one of my two pieces of advice concerning affairs of the heart. That, and being willing to take a chance... with your eyes wide open.

Posted by: JohnClif at May 24, 2005 07:33 PM

Broken hearts hurt but life is about loving and being loved...if one has never loved, they haven't lived.

Posted by: ali at May 24, 2005 08:11 PM

Wow, you hit it on the head for me! Feeling alone is one of the worst feelings!

At least having a broken heart takes up some time :-)

Posted by: Sissy at May 24, 2005 09:47 PM

Wow. I wrote that story about my first wife and posted it before reading the Tuesday topic. Weird synchronicity...

Posted by: WitNit at May 24, 2005 10:59 PM

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