April 12, 2007

Piss and moan

That would be me.

It has been a trying week at work for a number of reasons.

In my haste to vacate the premises this afternoon, knowing I would not have to return until Tuesday, I freaking walked off without my purse.


I am such a dumbass.

I do not do well when people are talking to me and I am trying to extricate myself from the conversation, not to mention, leave the office behind as I rush out to collect children from here, there, and yon.

In my left arm was two case files. My left hand held my cell phone. My right hand held my keys and a bottle of cold water.

My bag should have been on my arm, but for the fact, I left it in the desk drawer for some damned reason.

I think I am tired.

With two young boys coming this evening to stay until Sunday, I am a little strung out.

Add to the mix Sweet sprung a tennis practice on me at the last minute and Wee One has a Kindergarten music program, and, well, I had a trantrum.

I called Dash and told him I was tired of schlepping people from point A to point B and there was no way in hell I was taking the wee child back to school. If he thought she needed to participate, then he could take her.

He did.

She is happy.

No harm, no foul, despite it not being my shiniest moment as a mother.

At the moment, I am contemplating a move. Dash commutes North fifty or more miles. I commute South forty-seven or so miles.

It is possible to work four ten hour days (two of which are eligible for telecommuting) a week. Bottom line I would have a long-assed commute two days a week, but be home the rest of the time.

Dash would have to step up those two days.

Sweet One would have to transfer to another school to begin her Freshman year in high school and Wee One would have to go to another elementary school.

No one, but me, likes the idea and Dash has put me on notice things are about to get really hairy for him at his office.

If no one is willing to give an inch on this deal, I guess I become the banshee and toll the death on all extra-curricular activities.

I am only one human.

Posted by Christina at April 12, 2007 05:31 PM

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Yes you are. And good for you for realizing that before you drive yourself crazy.

On a much MUCH smaller scale, I've had this talk with my hubby...lol! Only ours is more about the fact that when we're getting ready to go somewhere he waits until the last minute to get himself ready, leaving me to get myself AND a toddler ready. He's gotten much better about not leaving everything to me (since really it takes me a longer to get ready than it does him because of applying makeup and such), but it still feels like we rush out the door at the last minute all the time. I have to admit, however, on Easter morning, we were ready with time to spare and we made it to church at exactly the moment we said we'd be there!

But, sometimes, everyone has to give a little, and in this case it might mean extra-curricular activities. They'll get over it. ;)

Posted by: Karin at April 12, 2007 06:39 PM

I hear you. With the four girls, this spring/summer, we will have 4 in softball, 2 in swim lessons and 2 in tennis. I allowed tennis only because they can walk to the courts. If I had to work as well, there would be no swim or tennis. As is, with his unreliable work schedule, I bust my ass some days to get everyone where they need to be and home again. I understand your position too well. Hopefully, there is some way to work things out that is beneficial to all involved. You really are only one person, and one person cannot always do it all.

Posted by: Theresa at April 12, 2007 06:55 PM

You cannot do it all. I have realized that, yet still try. Take care of yourself!!

Posted by: oddybobo at April 13, 2007 05:14 AM

There is a great deal of pressure on parents these days to have your child involved in things. A great deal of pressure.

I think that a little of that goes a long way. Childhood is supposed to be fun, not work. And, if you are constantly being shuttled from one organized activity to another, your life becomes an endless commute, which isn't any fun. I'm not anti-all extracurricular activity, not at all. I just think a little moderation is in order. For the kids' benefit and your own.

I did so much extracurricular in highschool that I did next to nothing in college. It had turned into work.

Obviously it is a decision that you and Dash have to make, but I'd limit each girl to one activity per season, and nothing that busied them more than 4 days/week, but that's me.

Good Luck!

Posted by: Phoenix at April 13, 2007 07:50 AM

I don't see why you would move since you both work equal distance from your house. Going to a 10 hour day, 2 days a week sounds good. Sounds like you need to start doing carpooling, to get the kids to their activies. You do the driving on your days off while another mother picks up the slack. I have found it easier to not expect my husband to be there and when he is it's a wonderful thing.

Posted by: LeeAnn at April 13, 2007 09:53 AM

Poor Dash! ROFLOL

Posted by: Mike B at April 13, 2007 12:21 PM

Yes, you *are* only human. Things will balance out...

Posted by: Richmond at April 14, 2007 11:03 AM

That's a hard schedule for sure. My mom was a taxi service for her four children - I'm convinced we drove her crazy. One year she had me in kindergarten, another one in first grade (different school, back then), my brother in junior high and my oldest sister in high school. BUT, the route was all contained within about a 5 mile radius, 7 at the most. And she didn't have a job outside of the home, either.
Good luck.

Posted by: Lolly at April 19, 2007 03:55 PM

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